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Where is the Ghanaian Pride?

Posted by gkdapaa on Sat, 04/12/2008 - 04:20

Warning: Objects in this article may appear farther than they really are!

My wife says my proposal wasn’t romantic because I, unlike the westernized folks, didn’t get on one knee to ask her to marry me! What she probably has forgotten or failed to appreciate because of unnecessary imitation (or better yet, copy-catting) of the white man’s culture, is the nice traditional marriage I gave her: What is more romantic and more elegant than the Ghanaian marriage ceremony. Firstly, the man’s family goes to the woman’s family to seek her hand in marriage. “Our son would like to pluck a beautiful flower nurtured in this house”, the spokesperson of man’s family craftily says. After the woman’s family concedes to the marriage, the man’s family organizes an elegant ceremony where they display and offer an array of beautiful cultural items like pure gold, colorful kente cloths and a heavy dowry to the female’s family as a token of their great appreciation. The display of both culture and items, the choice of words of the ceremonial spokesmen, and the evolution of the Ghanaian way of marriage, in my eyes, carry lots of not only romanticism but also meaning and symbolism.

{Aside: There are mixed feelings about whether or not the display of these elegant but expensive cultural items are worthwhile. In my opinion, our ancestors, being great thinkers, envisioned marriage as a serious event and thus required men to show their seriousness about their decision to marry by incurring such huge but well-intended costs. This could be an explanation to the extremely low divorce rates in the past: Any man, knowing the humongous fore-costs of marriage, would not even think about marrying if all he wanted to do is to “hit and then run (ie only having sex)”. It was also appropriate that culture required the man to incur the costs of marriage since men, in the past, had more authority on divorce decisions. In our modern world where divorce could be initiated by either party, however, I think culture should require both parties to incur marriage costs so that neither party would find an incentive to marry unless he/she is serious about it. This would help curb the rampant divorce rates in our modern times .}

Unfortunately, my wife is not the only person suffering from “Westernized Mentality Syndrome (WMS)”. My friend almost labeled me “NOT GENTLE” to say the least (the actual adjective my friend used was even harsher—UNCOUTHED) for having not developed the habit of opening car doors for ladies. However, this is the same guy who laughed at me when I took off my hat when greeting my grandfather’s friend. When did it become cool to adore someone’s culture but ignore our own (which should rather be more superior at least in our eyes). If pressed to rate these two events (ie respect for the elderly and opening doors for women), I would say respect for the elderly is more important by any standards than the western courtesy of opening doors for females. Personally (and the reader can feel free to disagree), opening doors is just an unnecessary burden anyone should incur as this is huge waste of time especially if it’s done on a daily basis. We could save substantial amount of precious time if each party opens his/her own door! To be clear, so I am not misinterpreted, it’s inevitable for a man to help a woman when, say, she is carrying a huge load of goods as women are physically not as strong as men; however, constantly doing things that a toddler easily does for him(her)self with no assistance, in the name of so-called courtesy, is a complete waste of time. Despite the lack of meaning and value of most western culture, it remains a puzzle why Ghanaians strive to be like the west, and in the process and rather unfortunately, lose their own identity: I can’t count the number of times I have come across Ghanaians who look like Ghanaians but strives desperately to act like Americans or British.

{Aside: A friend of mine observed that hiding one’s identity is negatively correlated with one’s education. In other words, less educated Ghanaians are more likely to act westernized!)

WMS is spreading more rapidly than the HIV syndrome. Very unfortunately, WMS is giving rise to the proliferation of symptoms worse than the above mentioned: It’s definitely not by coincidence why the typical so-called civilized(westernized) Ghanaian woman doesn’t know how to cook even the simplest Ghanaian dishes. I was unfortunate to be a part of a group of Ghanaian boys who happened to taste the jollof rice of a Ghanaian lady who volunteered to cook for us; I never knew Jollof could be as bitter as paracetamol (and this is no exaggeration). Because most Ghanaian wives in our recent world don’t know how to cook, most families are at the mercy of their maidservants (imported from the village) or the outside restaurants. Quite paradoxically, instead of feeling ashamed of their cooking skills, the so-called civilized Ghanaian ridicules the ethically trained Ghanaian woman, whose cooking skills are inferred just from the aroma of her dishes, for being collo(quial), that is belonging to the 17th century.

Cooking is just a tiny bit of the imminent threat of the loss of our Ghanaian pride and identity. Most Ghanaian men can gracefully put on flying ties within a twinkle of the eye but it remains a mystery how they tend to look like caricatures when they try hard to put on traditional clothes; we rattle English but stammer at our own language; worse of all, we laugh at the guy who speaks his language with uttermost dexterity and prowess. Instead of the fellow being an idol, he becomes a comedic entity showered with all sorts of belittling names like “Green”, “Kumasiano”, “local”, etc. Our voting pattern reveals tremendous favor shown toward the folk who is able to speak both English and Twi like the white man. When did it become a big deal to not “know English” but no deal to be ignorant of one’s own language? If we don’t do something now, our children and grandchildren would be more cultureless and would have no identity.

Our culture and traditions are what make us Ghanaians and not Americans. Just as Toyota strives to distinguish itself from the other car manufacturing companies, we ought to not feel shy promoting our own. Democrats are known by their beliefs and practices and they accentuate these features so they are not mistaken for Republicans. I understand comprehensively that, we should weed out the unhealthy Ghanaian practices like Trokotsi (the vestal virgin), female genital mutilation, and the others, that are rather detrimental to societal growth; however, there are other distinguishing aspects of our culture that need to be proudly promoted and accentuated anytime everywhere. These include but not limited to Respect for the old age, Admiration of the Ghanaian values and culture, the Ghanaian Dance, Our language, Our way of organizing ceremonies like marriage, naming, and funeral, to mention a handful. These are what make us unique and there are no better substitutes for them. Let’s remember that, the bad doctor who took care of the sick until the good doctor came to take over need not be betrayed! Saying the same in our ancestors words, “Okomfo bone a, woatena oyarefoo ho ama okomfo pa abe to no no, yennyi ne mma”


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I disagree with the 'WIFE'

I disagree with the 'WIFE' on the proposal bit especially when asking that you go down on one knee to declare your undying love for her and your wish to marry her. Even in the West Obroni doesn't always do that so i would consider that a bit over the top. But i do think some men lack a little bit of the 'je ne se quoi' in the romantic gestures department. A marriage proposal like say putting on your Kodjo Antwi music and smooching her to the beat before whispering in her ears or looking adoringly into her eyes and announcing your wish to marry her would easily have gone down perfectly. It would have been intimate, not westernised at all and mde her feel special. Moreover, there's a lot to be said for polite gestures; well not opening car doors or carrying bags per se but a host of polite attitudes which is already incorporated in our culture which unfortunately are never practised either. Hence even in our own traditonal norms and standards we are pretty impolite at times.

On the issue of women not being able to keep house nor cook, well i do consider it a disgrace and parents who do not pass on these ethics to their children are not doing them any favours as there is no probability that they will find themselves surrounded by house helps in the future. But its also time men swayed away from the norm that cooking and cleaning is solely a womans lot. Men can do it too. I think the problem modern day African couples are facing is being too stipulated in their day to day affairs. They do not share responsibilities, are too set in theirs ways and do not meet each other half way. And some men can be quite overbearing and women too docile. Respect, responsibilities and feelings have to be mutual to make a relationship work.

I think cultural identity is very important. It is what moulds a person and something that has to be held on to. Sometimes in our bid to acclimatise we end up shedding that identity and putting on a facade and that only ends up enstranging us the more because we are neither here nor there. I may have all the eloquence and mannerisms of a Westerner but a white woman i will not be accepted as and if by shunning my roots i find myself outside the parameters of my Ghanaian culture and ideologies, i would not fit in there either.

But having said that, i have also come across a lot of negative and archaic traditional practices and cultural norms which are best forgone or changed in order to tally with the modern era. I do not believe in following tradition blindly if it suited a by-gone era but cannot be suited to the current. And in that respect a generation should be free and bold enough to do away with those.

THE CRINGE FACTOR! WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT GOD MADE THREE WORLDS AND THAT I COME FROM THE THIRD WORLD. THE ISSUE OF RACE IS GEOGRAPHICAL AND NOT A STATUS SYMBOL AND NEITHER IS MY SKIN BLACK NOR YOURS WHITE.


We need to use creativity as a means to maintain cultural pride

Your entry points out the problems so eloquently but I think we do ourselves a great disservice as Ghanaians by pointing out the problems without figuring out a way out. I know how easy it is to point the index finger away from us, I find myself doing it sometimes. However, according to the Ghanaian proverb, while the index finger points away from us there are 3 pointing back thus the responsibility we have as individuals to curve the ball in our favor.

All the things you are speaking to concerning a loss of our culture are all somewhat accurate and are happening. However they are by no means helpless. It's not what "Ghana" ( I don't know what people mean when they say this) can do that matters, it is what you can do as an individual that really matters. I find that it is necessary that whatever we do as individuals about our loss of culture be creative so people can respond and must carry a message of self love and self worth.

Everything down to our education system glorifies western superiority and by so doing creates a sense of inferiority for us. I am not advocating that we do drastic things like suddenly withdraw English as a language spoken in Ghana but we can use English as a means and a tool to carry on our culture. You and I can write books in English about us and how important it is to be proud of ourselves and how it was in the past just like you point out in this blog.

We can write and sing songs, write poems about how we love being who we are and how being us is appreciated and embraced in its authentic state anywhere else. The sad part is we look to the west for even an expression of our creativity when we can develop our own from what we have. Let's return to the Koo Nimo and Co. style of music, AnansesEm written in the "crass" forms. Who says we can't make up anymore AnansesEm, we have creative minds that can. The sad thing is that we have people writing poems and "spitting" it to foreign audiences who applaud but don't know anything about what we speak. We need to find the correct audience--our people!

The only way we can keep the wonderful culture we so love is by showing that we can creatively continue it even with the so called foreign tools we are saddled with. The problem is here but the solution is found when we don't just throw stones in the very glass house in which we live. Blessings!
-B


fundamental misunderstanding

Culture is a complex subject and anyone who wishes to discuss it must tread carefully.This is unfortunately what you fail to do,gkdapaa. You fall into a common trap that many cultural apologists like yourself often fall into: the assumption that culture is static and immutable and is almost always worth preserving.I do not challenge that premise per se,but I only seek to draw your attention to the fact that the so-called culture you allude to is not what it was yesterday and will not be the same tomorrow;cultures everywhere simultaneously grow and die,shed old aspects and take on the new.

Now,let's apply this basic idea of cultural dynamism (or fluidity) to your example of women not knowing how to cook. The issue (note,I don't call it a problem) is not limited to Ghana. You only need to trace social evolution from our hunter-gatherer days to understand the trend. Pre-industrial/early industrial societies everywhere often had the same domestic arrangement where the man went out to win bread for the family while the woman stayed at home to bear and raise children. This created the paradigm where the woman had to,as a matter of necessity,be able to cook and clean and boost the ego of her male partner.With entry of women into the work force in the 1960s and beyond,strong economic and social forces have combined to weaken this your cherished woman-cooks-and-cleans institution.

Today, women contribute as much as men to the local and global economy and it is no overstatement to say their contribution outside the home equals or in some cases exceed that of men. Does it then make sense to expect women who spend as much time as men in the classroom and at work to do double overtime by mastering every sauce and pudding in the cookbooks just to please paternalistic men who are raised and indoctrinated by society to perceive women as breast-feeders and master chefs?

Times have changed,gkdapaa and after our mothers' generation there will be fewer and fewer women who can make world-class jollof rice for you. You may have to travel back to the 60s if you still hold your high tastes for fancy home cuisine.Rather than demanding the impossible from our women let's rather appreciate and praise their modest efforts at reconciling home keeping and outside work as best they can. As for all the other stuff about weddings and such, I believe people should have the right and freedom to choose however they desire to live their lives. If I choose to live like a Samurai in Kumasi, I don't think it's any less valid that if you chose to live like an Akan in New York. Culture is not some romanticized cocooned idea or lifestyle; in today's world culture is the sum of how we all choose to live locally and globally.

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Culture evolution and law of comparative advantage

Mandock, I completely understand that culture is dynamic! However, there are various ways through which culture could evolve: People normally adapt their ways of life when factors (environmental, socio-economic, etc) change. Hence, I rationally don't expect funerals to last as long as 10 hours (in the future) as it's been in the past and even in present days. As more jobs spring up in the Ghanaian economy, the opportunity cost of such cultural events would rise and thus people would be less willing to spend an entire day at a funeral ceremony. On the other hand, culture can change because of misguided copy-catting. This is the one that my article stresses because it's detrimental. It's okay to learn or imitate a good practice from elsewhere but Modern Ghana (or her majority) is now fond of seeing Ghana's traditional practices as inferior to those of the west. Most Ghanaians are caught on to the jingle that if it's best, it must be from the west! This is a major problem because i believe we have some favorable and enviable practices that need to be preserved. Regardless of one's admiration of Michael Jackson (and i am talking to you, Mandock ..lol), the adowa dancers in ashanti region, the atofo dancers in the western and central region, the "palongo" and "koogon" dancers in Greater Accra region, the Agbadza dancers in Volta region,etc are equally skilful. The trick is if we fail to appreciate our own culture, we make it easier for a foreigner to disdain it.

Secondly, most people (except Omanba, lol) didn't like my argument about the deteriorating cooking skills of the modern ghanaian woman. Omanba rightfully questions why cooking should be the woman's job; Mandock surprisingly comments that it's natural and hence not a big deal for a modern Ghanaian woman to not know how to cook. Mandock, to those of us who like fufu and groundnut soup, it's no doubt a big deal. We place lots of weight on good ghanaian dishes. I would therefore address Omanba's question.
Omanba, the notion that women should cook and men should paint is no different from why Ghana produces Cocoa and Japan produces cars. It's supported by the law of comparative advantage which, in simple terms, say that every entity (nation or individual) should specialize in what he/she can easily do. Women are naturally better in home management than men: Women plan better (and that's why my wife does my budget for me; she is from kwahu too so that's a plus!), manage better and cook better. On the other hand, men paint better and are relatively stronger to do the menial jobs like removing trashes, and moving huge items. Therefore, ceteris paribus, men should cook while women should move the TV as last resort. The wife who forces the husband to cook puts her stomach at risk (unless the husband is of course Abocco). It's just prudent to apportion the home assignments on grounds of efficiency. As our ancestors say fe na efe se obaa eretu mirika a, oso ne nufu,na enye se ebe tete agu nti a! (A running lady holds her breasts because it looks nice but not because the breasts would fall off...... I must admit, this proverb is one of the tough ones to translate)

Gyasi K Dapaa


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WMS, quote feature

okay, we need the quote feature back, i truly miss it.

WMS is spreading more rapidly than the HIV syndrome. Very unfortunately, WMS is giving rise to the proliferation of symptoms worse than the above mentioned: It’s definitely not by coincidence why the typical so-called civilized(westernized) Ghanaian woman doesn’t know how to cook even the simplest Ghanaian dishes. I was unfortunate to be a part of a group of Ghanaian boys who happened to taste the jollof rice of a Ghanaian lady who volunteered to cook for us; I never knew Jollof could be as bitter as paracetamol (and this is no exaggeration). Because most Ghanaian wives in our recent world don’t know how to cook, most families are at the mercy of their maidservants (imported from the village) or the outside restaurants. Quite paradoxically, instead of feeling ashamed of their cooking skills, the so-called civilized Ghanaian ridicules the ethically trained Ghanaian woman, whose cooking skills are inferred just from the aroma of her dishes, for being collo(quial), that is belonging to the 17th century.
The issue of housemaids is more pronounced in homes where the wife/woman is also working. Hence, she doesn't have time to carry out the role/chore/responsibility of cooking so a third-party carries that out. I was talking about this with my prof in my African women writers class the other day, how roles are given out in the prototypical African family. It's something we've learnt since primary school and even though the times have changed are changing, it would take awhile for these role-playing to disappear. Maybe if mothers stopped concentrating on teaching their duaghters and rather made it a point to teach the sons instead so the girls could do the ironing/sweeping/washing cars. etc, then we may have a change.

As for 'Western Mentality Syndrome', can you imagine the scores of Ghanaians back home who have never travelled anywhere and have it too? Scary.

{Aside: And Gkdpaa, why you dey dey my top for the cooking issue? I can cook a good number of meals, am yet to master aponkye nkakra and aprapransa though.}

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Everybody is got a point

Everybody is got a point in this debate on both the proposing and opposing sides of the issue but the fact remains that when talking about culture we need to look to ourselves first and closer to home before making allusions to other ones. So even in a strictly Ghanaian context we will find out that what used to be a woman's lot in the olden days i.e; cooking, childcare, home economics and all the multitasking that went on was solely because men were the main bread winners and out during the day working their muscles off to bring bread to the home so it was a fair share of responsibility.

But to bring that context to modern day living means it doesn't hold that much water as women are by themselves equal bread winners and financiers of family. Hence for a man to be sitting at home tapping his toes, reading his newspaper or watching football waiting for the woman to come home to cook when he could easily have put the rice or yam to the boil and warm the stew since he got home first is actually inexcusable based on the fact that its a woman's prerogative. Its a different thing if the dish is complex and the man cannot handle it.

Moreover its a bit sexist to think that cooking is for women and painting is for men. That sort of dynamics is a fallacy, for until a woman proves she hasn't got the ability nor strength in her arms to use a paint brush that notion doesn't apply to all. A lot of women paint, chop wood, break stones, weed plots and do a mean job at fixing car punctures and so on.

As for women who cannot cook nor keep house, i still maintain that it is a disgrace and just an aquired taste for laziness and so called social class standing. For what is a woman's worth if she cannot feed her own family nor keep her own house but has to rely on somebody. Is it any wonder that the husbands end up admiring the maid servant instead? A house help is exactly what it says, somebody to help...not the lady of the house. So i would expect any woman no matter how posh they think they are to have a hands on approach to home life. It doesn't make them less of a lady nor a career woman.

Now coming back to the general issue of culture i will agree with GK that we often get misguided and sway off course on ideologies when we do too much copying. Sometimes when in Rome one has to conform and do as the romans do, but it doesn't mean forgetting about your Ghanaian roots and good ideologies (good ones, mind) that shaped you altogether.

But having said that, there are times when i wish a bit of foreign influences will rub off a bit on us because lets face it we do lack a bit of finesse in certain attitudes and could learn a bit from other cultures as well. I guess the same applies the other way round. But Its sad to see Ghanaians in the diaspora do certain things that makes you want to hang your head in shame. For whiles that might not be culturally representational, the observer knows no better and we all get tarred with the same brush

THE CRINGE FACTOR! WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT GOD MADE THREE WORLDS AND THAT I COME FROM THE THIRD WORLD. THE ISSUE OF RACE IS GEOGRAPHICAL AND NOT A STATUS SYMBOL AND NEITHER IS MY SKIN BLACK NOR YOURS WHITE.